First, a confession . . . . I’m afraid.
I’m cripplingly afraid to dream. I don’t like to write down my goals, although a lot of people I know and respect do, because I’m afraid I’ll find them at the end of the year or whatever time period it might be and find that they haven’t come true. I have been disappointed too many times to mention and I confess I now avoid putting myself in situations where I might be disappointed again.
How scaredy-cat is that thinking?
I make jokes about a man being outnumbered in a room with one woman because of her multiple personalities, but it’s no joke in my case. I have one scaredy-cat personality that doesn’t want to take any risks, just do what’s safe and predictable and pays the bills. This womanis fed up with crying and disappointment and never getting what she wants, so her solution is not to want much.
I have another personality who wants to be allowed to dream big, think big, be big. This year (well, today at least) I’m letting that woman out and I’m going to make some goals public.
Okay, in no particular order:
- I will have paid public speaking engagements.
- I will acheive my Advanced Communicator Bronze and Advanced Leader Bronze awards in Toastmasters.
- I will set up an advanced speakers club in the Guildford area.
- I will develop my leadership skills.
- Guildford Harmony will achieve an improved placing at the national competition in October.
- I will lose 20kgs.
- I will have 6 Smart Talkers groups running in Woking and a plan in place for expanding to Guildford and further afield in 2013.
- I will visit my friend Josepha in Munich.
- I will go to Australia in November.
- I will feel in control of my finances.
- I will appreciate more and be grateful for it all.
The funny thing about this is that most people reading this will probably think these goals aren’t particularly huge. That’s okay. It’s massive for me to put it out there at all.
I suppose I should have a way of measuring these goals and a timeline for achieving them. Well, the deadline is December 31st 2012 and the measurement will be simple. I will have done the things I’ve listed. I have no idea how I’m going to do any of these things, but I hope by putting it down I have opened myself to the possibility of it all happening.
If nothing else, I’ve created a load of blog topics 🙂
A question for my audience member: when you set yourself a goal, do you imagine yourself at the end of the time period (31st December 2o12 in my case) having achieved your goal?
I don’t do that but I would like to hear about your experiences.
Firstly, I can confirm that you’re not alone with being afraid – I believe that (if we are truly honest) we all are!
However, you have taken a MASSIVE step in writing down your goals.
To answer your question with regards to ‘do you imagine yourself at the end of the time period,’ well, I will take my lessons from NLP expert Fiona Campbell here.
Fiona has given me advice in several areas with regards to this, so hopefully I pass on just a couple . . .
Firstly, it is essential that you consider your goals in the ‘present’ and not the ‘future’ – Fiona has summed this up by explaining to me that if you think of your goals as something you’ll achieve in the future, that is exactly where they remain, in the future. It makes sense, doessn’t it.
Secondly, I definitely visualise how it already feels to achieve my goals – I can clearly see myself running different parts of my ultra and know how it feels to complete it.
Hope this helps and I know Fiona will add far more than I can possibly do!
Great to have you on-board!
If this article has inspired you to write down your goals for 2012 and share them, then please connect with the Maximise Potential site here and send them over!